My Partner Is Pressuring Me to Have an Abortion but I’m Not Sure
Facing an unplanned pregnancy can cause your mind to swirl with worry and questions: What will I do? What are my options? It’s important to take the time to find answers, but pressure from other people can interfere with this process.
If your partner is trying to talk you into an abortion, know that the decision about what to do in this pregnancy journey is yours alone. And there are strategies you can use to make sure that your choices aren’t influenced by other people.
Read on to learn ways that you can make this decision for yourself.
Whatever you decide to do next on this pregnancy journey will be life-changing, which is why it’s vital to fully research your options. Only when you understand each option can you make the decision that’s right for you.
Abortion is a permanent choice that terminates a viable pregnancy, and it’s important to understand the potential risks, side effects, and mental health concerns associated with abortion. Although your partner is pressuring you to have an abortion, you will have to live with the effects of this decision.
You have other options, including adoption or parenting. Both of these choices require carrying the pregnancy and giving birth, and these can be complex options depending on your life situation and support network. However, many women find that either adoption or parenting is the best choice for them.
As you’re thinking through your options, having a neutral person to talk to who will simply listen and not try to persuade you is important. Talking through your thoughts, feelings, and options will help you discover what’s right for you.
When choosing a neutral person, confiding in someone who you can trust and who is a good listener is important. You want to make sure they have your best interests at heart and won’t try to pressure you to make one decision over the other.
If you don’t feel like you have a neutral person to talk to, journaling is another strategy that can help you think through your options. Your journal is for your eyes only, so you can be completely honest as you write down your thoughts and feelings. When journaling, think through questions such as:
As you write through your thoughts and feelings, this will give you clarity about what’s right for you.
No matter what anyone else says, remember that the choices you make moving forward are yours alone. If your partner or anyone else is trying to coerce you to make a decision that you’re not comfortable with, or if you feel unsafe, reach out to the National Domestic Violence hotline for help.
You are not alone as you make your choice. At Assure Women’s Center, we’re here for you. Whether you need someone to talk to about your options or are looking for free pregnancy resources, we’re here to help. Schedule your free, confidential appointment today.